darktable 3.8 flakey, where can I find the last 3.6 for windows?

True, but a clean restart should do the trick as well.

What I also noticed (and this is why I suggested enabling showing all file extensions is this:
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The red marked file is the actual library.db file that darktable will re-create if it doesn’t exist.
The green marked file is just library (no file extension) and telling from the size, it’s probably identical to the library.db-pre-3.8.0.

The same pattern repeats itself with the data.db.