In my experience, this happens in all enthusiast forums and communities. But I think you nailed it with your first sentence, which can apply to DT in general. Darktable lays the underlying mathematics and science bare much more than many commercial programs, so I think many users feel it needs a much more mathematical and scientific approach to processing.
BTW @priort, do you post on mobile? I always like to read your posts but I fear your message sometimes gets lost in a wall of text. A few paragraph breaks and clear sentences would help a lot. Just a friendly suggestion because I feel you represent that group of users that sits somewhere in the middle between the programmer-level enthusiasts and the non-technical users who just want their photos to look good (often found on other forums). I know you’re active on FB, helping users out over there with your knowledge gleaned from this forum, and I think this ambassadorial role is useful and important. Apologies if I’ve assumed too much!