How to set DNG metadata to affect gamma being applied

I can get to the point i want in Resolve with the steps shown above, i just dont want to have to do that each time a clip is imported.

I think your best bet would be to import straight into Resolve, and have your project/timeline default set to linear gamma, would be my hunch. If you are trying to save steps, then I’d recommend against processing through Rawtherapee, as it makes the workflow much more complicated, only necessary if you want some feature that Rawtherapee has that Resolve doesn’t, such as wavelets, hot pixel filter, dark frame subtraction, flatfield subtraction, LAB color curves, RL deconvolution sharpening or such. If all you want is to stay in linear colorspace and apply curves, then Resolve can handle it all.