@Fotonut don’t give up! We’re here to help. Let’s identify the issues and take small steps to solve them. I felt the same way you feel many times, but then it’s nice to discover that sometimes it was indeed a software bug, and other times I was just going too crazy with software when I should have taken more care while shooting.
In some other post you listed the software you use, and there were quite a few programs in your workflow, notably LHDR, and in addition to this you’re using AdobeRGB, so there is quite a high chance that you’ll experience software bugs.
Less is more.
The first thing I recommend doing is cleaning your workflow slate. Open a photo and use only curves. If it looks bad - delete. I delete about 90% of my shots and the effects of that are nothing but good - less tagging, less processing, less disk space used, and the remaining photos are bound to have the most usable contents (best light, best composition, best expressions).
Secondly, stop saving to Adobe RGB. Does more damage than good. At least for now. Cutting down on the software in your workflow could also expose the culprit which causes the color oddities. My guess is LHDR.
Third, if possible, get someone to verify your monitor calibration. Maybe one of us from here lives near you?