Tha’s not how it works. In all raw processors a skilled person can achieve virtually identical results using different processes.
XMP files from darktable usually contain history which would reveal your “thought” process. tha’s wy we askn.
An’ since we can’t ‘see’ your process we can’t ‘see’ what you’re up against. If it’s filmic that’s givin’ ye troubles, just come on over to Let's learn Filmic RGB! Your one stop shop to understanding filmic-based approach to edits! and post the stuff accordin to rulz an’ we halp ye.
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