God grant you the time to grieve, the freedom to cry.
I remember your writing about him last year. Photography will likely become a trigger for you - of the good memories and the bitterness of loss.
Be gentle with yourself, and try to find an outlet for grief every day. Seek out a good listener, someone who can accompany you on this difficult journey without criticizing your thoughts, words or actions, but who can gently help pick you up when necessary.
I have buried or cremated many, many persons in my time as a pastor, especially in these last 11 years in Aged Care Chaplaincy: itās never easy, no matter how long expected and how much preparation you have done, to grieve. But grieve you must. I lost my Godmother two weeks ago and - though she had been comatose and her death was a release from tenterhooks - my body still had physical reactions of grief.
If you wish to voice talk or direct-message, Iād be pleased to be a listener for you.
Dealing with loss is never easy and you have to mourn 2 at the moment. Donāt be afraid to cry and scream if you have to, but be strong when you need to be. If at all possible let someone else take care of you for a while.
Itās a tough one ā¦ and it took me about two years to get through with it when my father died. At first there are the thousand moments of thinking āOh, thatās something I need to tell dad, he likes that stuffā and it hits you like a hammer swung at full force just half a second later.
Then comes a time where you adapt to the situation - but still miss him a lot. And finally you get to terms with it. After all - and you will hate me for this - itās all good: the children bury their parents. Nature has foreseen it this way and the World keeps on turning, although yours has just stopped.
My condolences. Your father sounds like a wonderful person. I feel the same way about my mother, who died two years ago. I consider myself incredibly blessed to have been her behavior as something to strive toward. Iāve found that very comforting in the time since; I sincerely hope your memories of your fatherās goodness do the same for you.
Very sorry to hear this, Afre. As others have said, allow yourself to grieve. And focus on all the things that made him a great Dad. Those memories will survive.
Sorry to hear about your loss @afre. When an old person passes away, it is like destroying a library. All the collected wisdom one has access to vanishes. Take care.
Iām sorry for your loss @afre. You have our condolences.
These times can certainly be trying and as @martin.scharnke has said, if you want someone to share with or just chat please donāt hesitate to reach out to me directly. I too would be happy to listen.
Thanks friends! I am very much like my father and completely okay with pain and loss. Like him, I enjoy being in the company of people from all walks of life. That is why I am here. The funeral went well. A little chilly but I made sure I dressed warmly. Now that my schedule is open, perhaps it is time to take out the dusty camera and trail runners.
I need some recommendations! I probably know how to do this but I am simply not in the head space.
The funeral home finally retrieved our lost live stream. I want to archive it but have trouble because my internet connect is inconsistent. What are ways to download, resume if cut off and checksum. Yes, I am using Windows 10. I prefer FLOSS but want it as simple as possible. Thanks!
Actually, I think I already have it. I looked in the wrong directory~oops! But recommendations are still welcome because I like to learn new things.
God grant you the time to grieve, the freedom to cry.
