Hi @Elle,
parting shot
Hoping you haven’t already cut yourself off, please let me express my shock and dismay at what you have shared. As has already been posted on this thread, the phenomenon of a long farewell post is all too familiar, but - dare I say it - tends to be akin to lobbing a grenade and heading for the hills. In other words, leaving with a parting shot, no right of reply given. I think such action is beneath you, and I would urge you to re-think by taking a hiatus for a little while (maybe a week, maybe a month), but leaving the door open to possibly resume your participation.
appreciated
As has been stated by others who have known you longer and interacted iwth you more, your insightful comments and shared knowledge have been appreciated by many; including those who tend to lurk more and post less, like me. (I have given more likes- by far - than created posts).
misogyny
@patdavid made the comment about the meaning of “misogynist” and it is something that bothers me, too. A former Prime Minister of Australia, Julia Gillard, also famously (at least here in Oz) redefined misogynist. OK, languages evolve, and Gillard’s definition was added to many dictionaries, but you were pointing to a wider issue: prejudice in general.
prejudice
It would be hopelessly niaive to imagine there aren’t instances of prejudice here, but that is far from making it normative and normal. As has been pointed out, there are mechanisms for moderation, and direct communication lines to the admins/moderators.
nudity/art/porn
There is no doubt about your analysis that there is a colossal gender imbalance between portrayals of nudity in art - both the older arts like painting and sculpture, and newer forms like photography. What the reason(s) for this is/are is certainly a matter for serious study/debate/research. I thank you for starting such debate, and I hope that it can continue, both in this forum and much more widely. Given that it is not a 20th or 21st Centure phenomenon, but one that goes back throughout our known history, I would think that there have been others who have researched this that we can also learn from.
forum etiquette / flames / abuse
As has been pointed out variously, any online forum is a microcosm of our society. We each need to continue to strive to work for community and avoid / prevent / forgive animosity in all its forms. Yes, it is not always possible to remain in a situation which is abusive, and persons who have suffered physical or mental abuse from partners, for example, need to have emergency escape mechanisms. Debate will always exists, however, because we are not all clones. The very word forum goes back to the place of debate, argument, even assassination(!!!). There are times when a thicker skin is called for, or a flame-proofing, or whatever you want to call it. There are also times for standing up for the vulnerable and the oppressed and being the voice for those who are too frightened to speak. “To every thing there is a season: turn, turn, turn…”
the road ahead
@Elle, I do hope you can re-consider, after some hiatus, and continute with us. Your point that there is a white male domination of the forum and of the moderation/administraton of it has some validity. Perhaps a female moderator ought to be appointed? And perhaps you can use the maturity and reasonableness that you have normally demonstrated here in such a role at some point in the future?
If you should abide with your decision to withdraw, we as a community will be poorer for the lack of your knowledge and insight, and for the lack of your being the voice of women, and/or those prejudiced against.
KInd regards
Martin